Emotional Intelligence Test

People never fidget or talk to others when I speak

Mostly Untrue (about me)

Partly True (about me)

Mostly True (about me)

It is very rare that I have enemies

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I often consider whether my speech is loud or not

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I am aware of my feelings and can name them

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

My motivation is complex

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I adjust my speech level deliberately to suit situations

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I never lose my professional cool

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

If upset, I continue to listen acutely to what is going on

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I deliberately change my habits when needed

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I express my feelings, and do so where it is appropriate

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I instinctively know if someone is upset

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

People often come to me for help with personal issues

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I buy presents that I would not necessarily like myself but are appreciated by the recipients

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I hand-write a personal greeting for a birthday card/gift

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I do more listening than talking

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I cope well with awkward and embarrassing situations

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

If someone becomes upset I help deal with that before moving on with any previous discussion

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I offer support in preference to advice

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

In a meeting I encourage anyone who has not spoken to do so

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

I make adjustments to people’s jobs to fit in with their expressed needs and motivations

Mostly Untrue

Partly True

Mostly True

What is my Emotional Intelligence Score?

Low Level EI

You have been waiting for pain to happen in order to grow your EI. But you can change all that by starting to understand your thinking, prejudices & behaviors by asking for specific feedback from others that you trust. By specific, we mean that you are setting the context for the question precisely and then asking for the feedback. Here is an example: "When I spoke up about the change project in the meeting, Eleanor seems to go very quiet. If there was one thing that would have made what I said more effective to the team, what is that one thing?"

Low & Developing Level of EI

You can accelerate you EI by asking for specific feedback from others that you trust. By specific, we mean that you are setting the context for the question precisely and then asking for the feedback. Here is an example: "When I spoke up about the change project in the meeting, Eleanor seems to go very quiet. If there was one thing that would have made what I said more effective to the team, what is that one thing?" After some weeks or months, come back and re-do the test as honestly as you can. The questions are grouped in four levels, the first five being the most easily attainable and so on, in fives. It can take many months to double your Emotional Intelligence!

High Managing or Advanced EI

Your EI is already very high. To keep it high, you may think to ask more questions of others, especially those you do not have such good rapport with so far. Ask for specific feedback from them about how you are doing in a specific situation and take more interest in non-work life stuff.